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I'm frankly staggered that men are so scared to approach women! I also want to add that I'm NOT a pickup-artist (I hate that stuff), but just a normal, confident guy who enjoys meeting and dating women by being honest and by being myself.

I also understand that women in today's society are starved of real men, and either don't get approached or get approached by d*ckheads or creeps.

This could be a long reply, so bear with me!

I believe in the last generation or so, men have become wimps and don't have the balls or the guts to approach women anymore! Whatever happened to men being real men?

The first point I want to make is that the daytime/non-bar/non-club places are the best places to meet women! The typical guy cannot approach women, as he is too scared. The only places you tend to see guys approaching women is in bars or clubs when they have had a drink and have the 'dutch courage', but they usually end up making a complete idiot of themselves.

Or men try to meet women on the internet, on things like Facebook or dating sites like plentyoffish etc. What the guys don't realise is that girls receive an average of 100 messages a day on such sites, meaning that your chance of any success is next to nil. Even if you were to meet a girl on these sites, it doesn't convey to her that you're confident or different from all the other guys....after all, ANY guy can message women online, as it doesn't take any balls!

The final place most men meet women is through friends, which is very hit and miss and has limited options.

So that leaves daytime places. Now if you can get good at meeting women in the day, you will be able to meet and date women regularly, as women are starved of being approached by classy, confident decent men. I don't believe most girls get approached very often at all during the day, certainly not, and rarely by classy, confident men!

When most guys see a good looking girl, they are usually too scared to approach, since they put her on a pedestal, so they don't approach.

Or, most guys will simply STARE at girls but not approach.

The small number of guys who do approach girls usually make a complete dick of themselves or come across as creepy etc. Girls bitch about 'creepy guys' only because those guys have no clue what they're doing.

The biggest mistake guys make is by trying to impress a girl or 'act cool' or 'act aloof' etc.

Also a lot of guys try to approach women by being 'indirect', by using an excuse etc to get into the conversation such as 'excuse me can you tell me where whatever place is' etc. They then try to use this as 'in' and then talk about a bunch of other 'small talk' before they tag on the end 'can I get your number?' etc. The girl then thinks turns him down or feels awkward, and the guy walks away dejected.

The solution is to approach girls by being DIRECT and upfront about your intentions, but also in a classy and confident way so as not to come across as creepy. I approach women on a daily basis like this and get good results. I've also spoken to loads of women about this and they all agree with me.

Example: I have a number of female friends who are of student age. One of them tell me all the time that the men who approach her are old and creepy, or just talk about a bunch of indirect b*******. She has a tattoo on her back, and men comment on it all the time as a 'excuse' to approach her, when in fact what they REALLY want is to get laid. She said she wishes a guy would just approach her and be HONEST and say something like 'Excuse me, I really like the look of you and I'd love to get to know you', and then just have a normal conversation instead of trying to act a dick or impress her etc.

Another girl I know, who is 22, said what she wants ultimately is a MAN, not a BOY. Real men approach direct and are honest with women!

So, in summary, if you want to approach a girl in the daytime:-

1) Approach and be DIRECT and STRAIGHTFORWARDLY HONEST. A lot of women will be flattered and will appreciate the honestly

2) Look her directly in the eyes (this conveys confidence; women complain all the time about men and their lack of eye contact), and smile too so you don't come across creepy or 'too serious'.

3) Compliment her looks or whatever it is about her that attracts you to her.

4) Introduce yourself/shake her hand and tell her you'd love to get to know her.

5) Do not stick around 'trying to make conversation' etc. What you need to remember, guys, is that we live in a hectic society and in the daytime most people are going from point A to point B. So tell the girl you understand she's busy and so you don't want to keep her too long....which brings me nicely to he final point....

6) Do not ask for her number. Instead, get some business cards printed up with your phone number and email addy etc on, then hand her your card and tell her to give you a call when she's not busy.

You then wish her a good day and walk off. Now a lot of people are probably wondering why you shouldn't ask for a girl's number. Well, EVERY other guy tries to get a girl's number. Also, if you take a girl's number and then call her, you're chasing her. Instead, you want to have girls calling you and chasing you. By giving out your business card, the girls who are interested will call (or text or email) you.

I've seen a few people discussing looks on here. I want to say that I know several men who are not good looking but who do extremely well with women. I don't say looks don't help, but good looks will only get your foot in the door. Confidence is what will keep you there. If you're good looking but not confident, you won't have any lasting success with any given girl; but if you're confident you will.

The bottom line is some girls will be interested/some won't. Be respectful if she's not interested. And remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Once the girls start calling, arrange to meet up with them for a cup of coffee and then just get to know each other and see if you're compatible or not.

You'll stand out from other guys this way too. This works well for me. I usually approach women whenever I happen to be out and about, and it doesn't take much time. If you work in a day job you can do it on your lunch break or when on your way to or from work, or if you're self employed (like me) then you can easily fit in an hour of your day to meet women.

A final thing....don't bother with all that pickup-artist stuff. That stuff just over-complicates the process of meeting women and it's also dishonest and immoral. Instead, be a confident, classy man and simply be direct and honest with women, it will lead you down a better path.

I pride myself on being very direct and honest with women, and also respectful if they're not interested, but nonetheless I'm unapologetic about telling a girl I'm attracted to her and would love to get to know her. I truly respect women as people, but at the same time I never dial down my sexual interest, as I know women love sex just as much as men too.

And don't become too obsessed with this either. Keep things as simple as possible. Good luck and if you need any more advice or points clearing up then just ask.